"Dealing with MMQ's"

“Dealing with ‘MMQ’s’”

(A sequel to “Monday Morning Quarterbacks”)

 

A number of notable sayings characterize Charles Schulz’s “Charlie Brown’s” status as a “lovable loser” including “I think I’m becoming allergic to criticism.” (I once had a coworker named Charlie Brown who had a sweatshirt with this quote on the back.) A lot of us can identify with Charlie’s struggles as critics (aka “Monday Morning Quarterbacks”, or “MMQ’s”) are a dime a dozen.

A village in which we served had a small hospital overseen by a local Board of Directors. The physician who admitted a majority of patients and who was extremely popular in the community had his privileges suspended as a result of an independent pathology evaluation. During a tumultuous public meeting one man called for the removal of the Administrator and Board—but offered no alternative management plan. Years ago when visiting my mother’s church a “leader” confronted me and confessed all the pastor’s “sins”. When I asked if he had considered that his perception might be wrong the conversation ended. In both these cases the critics pointed out perceived problems but had no constructive solutions. Such is often the case with “MMQ’s”.

Jesus encountered “MMQ’s” who criticized His words and actions because He upset the “good thing” they had going. But He always brought them back to God’s Word (e.g. His cleansing the temple in Matthew 21:12-13 and the religious leaders’ finding fault with His disciples in Matthew 15:1-9). So before trying to answer the “MMQ’s” in our lives we must follow His example and see “What does the Scripture say?” (Romans 4:3). The Master responded to Satan’s temptation in this way—can we do any less?

Criticism is hard to hear (especially if it’s based on the opinion of a self-appointed “guardian” of the way things should be) but over the years I’ve learned a bit about how to respond to “MMQ’s”. For openers, listen to what they have to say—much as I might not want to admit it they may have a valid point or two (“{One} who answers before listening—that is {one’s} folly and…shame”—Proverbs 18:13). Then ask for specifics—it’s hard to “fix” generalizations (Jesus asked His accusers, “Can any of you prove me guilty of sin?”—John 8:46). Finally, ask if they’re willing to help (“Remind the people…to do whatever is good….”—Titus 3:1). Frequently the last two steps are lacking so I challenge the “MMQ” to think about them and get back to me—their decision here largely determines if they’re serious about addressing the issue.

Criticism (aka “MMQing”) isn’t a spiritual gift but serving is (1 Peter 4:10). Which will I choose?

 

Grace and Blessings!

Jim McMillan